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Thursday, November 12, 2026

Lessons Catholics Need to Learn from the Midterms.

 

Confronting Evil in America: 

A Catholic Perspective

Public discussion about America's future often centers on elections, legislation, court decisions, economic policy, or cultural trends. While these issues matter, Catholic teaching suggests they are not the deepest source of either national decline or national renewal.

The Catechism of the Catholic Church describes evil not simply as a political or institutional problem but as a moral reality rooted in human choices. Human beings are created with freedom and are capable of choosing either good or evil (CCC 1704-1707). According to Catholic teaching, societies are ultimately shaped by the character of the people who compose them. When dishonesty, selfishness, indifference, or violence become common, those attitudes eventually influence families, communities, and public institutions.

The Catechism further teaches that sin has both personal and social consequences. Individuals can become responsible not only for their own wrongdoing but also for the sins of others through cooperation, approval, or indifference (CCC 1868). Over time, these patterns can become embedded within institutions and cultures, creating what the Church calls "structures of sin" (CCC 1869).

This perspective offers a different lens through which to view America's current divisions. Political debates often encourage citizens to locate the nation's problems in opposing parties, ideologies, or social groups. Yet Catholic teaching maintains that no movement, party, class, or generation possesses a monopoly on either virtue or vice. The central question is not simply who is responsible for the nation's problems, but whether citizens are becoming more capable of living lives ordered toward truth, justice, and the common good (CCC 1905-1912).

The Church's response to evil therefore extends beyond policy preferences. Catholics are called to defend human dignity, strengthen families, protect innocent life, pursue justice, and contribute to society's well-being (CCC 1928-1942). At the same time, the Church warns that lasting reform cannot be achieved through anger alone. Evil cannot be overcome by adopting the habits that contribute to disorder in the first place.

An often-overlooked biblical concept helps illustrate this point. The Hebrew word ezer, often translated as "helper," is also associated with strength, rescue, and protection. In many passages of Scripture, God Himself is described as the ezer of His people. Applied to civic life, the concept suggests an alternative to perpetual political conflict: citizens acting as sources of strength for one another rather than viewing one another primarily as opponents.

From this perspective, the challenge facing America is not merely institutional but cultural. The health of a nation depends upon the health of its families, communities, and moral habits. Political victories may influence events for a season, but character influences a civilization for generations.

History provides numerous examples of this principle. Periods of renewal have often been associated not only with new governments or laws but with men and women whose lives embodied courage, integrity, sacrifice, and faith. The Catholic tradition points to the saints as evidence that profound social change frequently begins at the personal level before becoming visible at the social level.

This leads to a conclusion that is both simple and demanding. If evil is ultimately rooted in the human heart, confronting it requires more than winning arguments or elections. It requires what the Church calls conversion: a turning toward truth, virtue, responsibility, and God (CCC 1427-1431).

In Catholic thought, the most important task facing America is therefore not partisan victory but moral renewal.

The principle can be summarized in the words of St. Paul:

"Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good." (Romans 12:21)

For the Church, that remains both a spiritual command and a civic strategy.

The One Thing America Must Do

If Catholic teaching were reduced to a single prescription for confronting evil in America, it would be this:

Return to God.

The Catechism teaches that authentic social renewal begins with the conversion of persons. "Without the help of grace, men would not know how to discern the often narrow path between cowardice which gives in to evil and the violence which under the illusion of fighting evil only makes it worse" (CCC 1889).

When hearts change, families change. When families change, communities change. When communities change, culture changes. When culture changes, nations change.

The Church's long-term answer to America's challenges is therefore neither revolution nor retreat. It is the formation of men and women whose lives are governed by faith, hope, charity, truth, courage, and self-sacrifice.

The Church has a name for such people:

Saints.


Arbinger Training and the American Challenge: 


Seeing People as People


In discussions about America's cultural, political, and moral struggles, attention is often focused on policies, institutions, and public figures. Yet one leadership model gaining attention in business, education, healthcare, and government begins with a far simpler question:

How do people see one another?

The Arbinger Institute's Outward Mindset framework argues that many conflicts persist because individuals stop seeing others as people with needs, challenges, hopes, and objectives equal to their own. Instead, they begin viewing others as obstacles, vehicles, irrelevancies, or problems to be managed. Arbinger refers to this condition as an inward mindset. In contrast, an outward mindset recognizes the humanity, needs, and objectives of others while remaining committed to achieving results.¹

While developed as a leadership and organizational model, the concept overlaps in remarkable ways with Catholic teaching on human dignity.

The Catechism teaches that every human being is created in the image and likeness of God (CCC 1700). Human dignity does not depend on political affiliation, social status, race, education, wealth, or agreement with one's opinions. Every person possesses an inherent worth that must be respected.

This principle becomes especially important during periods of national division. Modern political discourse often encourages citizens to sort one another into categories. Individuals become labels. Neighbors become voting blocs. Opponents become caricatures. The result is a society increasingly skilled at argument and increasingly incapable of understanding.

Arbinger's central insight is that people often create many of the conflicts they later blame on others. When individuals view others primarily as obstacles, they tend to provoke the very resistance they fear. Relationships deteriorate. Cooperation declines. Trust evaporates. Productivity falls. What appears to be someone else's problem may begin with one's own mindset.

Catholic theology arrives at a similar conclusion from a different direction. The tradition teaches that moral renewal begins with self-examination rather than condemnation of others. Before confronting the faults of neighbors, believers are called to confront their own hearts (CCC 1779, 1780).

Applied to American life, this presents a challenge.

Instead of asking only what is wrong with political opponents, citizens might ask:

  • Have they listened before judging?
  • Have they sought understanding before criticism?
  • Have they treated others as persons rather than categories?
  • Have they contributed to the problems they wish to solve?

These questions require humility. They also require courage.

The Hebrew word ezer offers another useful lens. Often translated as "helper," ezer carries the stronger meaning of protector, rescuer, and source of strength. Scripture frequently uses the word to describe God's relationship with His people.

Viewed through this lens, citizenship becomes something more than competition. Neighbors become people to strengthen rather than enemies to defeat. Communities become places of mutual responsibility rather than permanent ideological battlefields.

Neither Arbinger nor Catholic teaching suggests ignoring wrongdoing. Evil remains evil. Falsehood remains falsehood. Justice remains necessary.

The challenge is to confront these realities without losing sight of the humanity of the people involved.

America does not merely need better arguments. It needs better citizens.

The Catechism teaches that society improves when people grow in virtue and accept responsibility for the common good (CCC 1888-1889; 1905-1912). Arbinger training reaches a similar conclusion through different language: lasting improvement occurs when people move beyond self-justification and begin to see others more clearly.

Both perspectives point toward the same practical lesson.

A stronger nation begins when citizens learn to see one another not as objects to overcome, but as people to understand.

Before America can overcome many of its outward divisions, it may first need an outward mindset.

Sources

  1. Arbinger Institute, Developing and Implementing an Outward Mindset workshop materials and overview. Arbinger teaches that individuals and organizations improve results when they shift from an inward mindset to an outward mindset that considers the needs, objectives, and challenges of others.
  2. Catechism of the Catholic Church §§1700-1706 (Human Dignity)
  3. Catechism of the Catholic Church §§1779-1780 (Conscience and Self-Examination)
  4. Catechism of the Catholic Church §§1888-1889 (Renewal of the Social Order)
  5. Catechism of the Catholic Church §§1905-1912 (The Common Good)

Thursday, November 19, 2026


Smoke in This Life, Not the Next

 Thursday, Nov. 19 – Father Zucchi and the Novice

Virtue: Custody of Another's Soul

Cigar: Corojo

Bourbon: Russell's Reserve

Most sins hurt the person committing them. Scandal hurts someone else as well. It occurs when our words, actions, or example make sin easier and virtue harder for another person. That is why Our Lord spoke so strongly against leading others away from the path of God.

Father Nicholas Zucchi, a seventeenth-century Jesuit priest, guided three young women toward religious life. Before the youngest entered the convent, a young nobleman sought to persuade her to abandon her vocation. He repeatedly encouraged her to leave the service of God and return to worldly pursuits. Seeing the danger, Father Zucchi warned him to repent and reminded him that he would soon stand before God's judgment.

Two weeks later, the young man died.

Not long afterward, the novice encountered an apparition of the deceased nobleman. Bound by fiery chains, he revealed the suffering he was enduring and cried out only, "Pray for me!" God's mercy had not abandoned him, but his punishment served as a warning about the consequences of attempting to draw another soul away from its divine calling.

The Swiss pikemen understood that a single soldier breaking ranks could expose the entire formation. The spiritual life is no different. Parents, spouses, friends, teachers, and coworkers all influence the souls around them. Every encouragement toward virtue strengthens the line. Every temptation toward sin weakens it.

As today's smoke rises, ask yourself a simple question: Do my words help others reach Heaven, or do they point them somewhere else?

"Let your speech always be gracious." — Colossians 4:6


NOVEMBER 18 Wednesday Twenty-Fifth Week Pentecost

 

Luke, Chapter 19, Verse 20-21

Then the other servant came and said, ‘Sir, here is your gold coin; I kept it stored away in a handkerchief, for I was AFRAID of you, because you are a demanding person; you take up what you did not lay down and you harvest what you did not plant.’

 

When I read this verse; I thought of Mathew Kelly’s writing from his book, “Rediscovering Catholicism.” Kelly speaks about the various attitudes and philosophies which shape and define the mindset of the modern secular world. He identifies three key lifestyles: individualism, hedonism, and minimalism.

 

First, what’s individualism?

 

Individualism is an attitude whereby I come to see myself as the center of the universe. The individualist will typically go through the course of his or her day asking himself or herself one question: “What’s in it for me?”

 

Secondly, what’s hedonism?

 

Essentially, it is an attitude whereby I come to see the pursuit of my own personal pleasure as my primary concern in life. The hedonist will typically ask himself or herself this question: “How can I maximize the amount of pleasure in my life while minimizing the amount of pain and inconvenience which I must endure?”

 

Thirdly, what is minimalism?

 

This is a attitude whereby I look to put in the minimum amount of effort that I possibly can into life, while reaping the maximum amount of reward. The minimalist will typically ask himself or herself questions such as these:

 

·         “What’s the least amount I can possibly do at the workplace and still keep my job?” Or perhaps:

·         “What’s the least amount I can possibly do at school and still get a good grade?”

 

There are many people in the world today who might “self-identify” as being “Christian”, if not “Catholic”, who are still giving their hearts very much to the so-called “spirit of the world”; whether we’re talking about the spirit of individualism, hedonism or minimalism. For instance, we can say that there are many Catholics in the world who go to Mass, say their prayers, and perhaps even occasionally eat fish on Fridays – who still govern most of their conduct by asking themselves this one simple question: “What’s in it for me?” Many of these people might still be very “kind” and “generous” to certain persons that they happen to know. Who isn’t from time to time? But perhaps, this sense of “kindness” and “generosity” is still governed by a pervasive sense of selfishness and self-interest. In other words: “I’ll be kind to you, but only insofar as you’re being kind back onto me!” And what is that but the spirit of individualism. Let’s take a different example. Again, we can say that there are many Catholics in the world today who go to Mass, say their prayers, and perhaps belong to certain religious clubs or organizations who still govern the bulk of their conduct by asking: “How can I get through the course of my day while incurring the least amount of pain or inconvenience to myself?” Many of these people might still be saying their prayers, perhaps even every day, but what’s often the real substance behind these prayers? “O Lord give me the things that I want, the things that I desire, the things that I believe to be essential to my own sense of happiness and well-being. But Lord, whatever you do: do not make me suffer, do not give me inconvenience, and do not give me pain! In other words, do not give me the Cross!” And that is the spirit of hedonism: the relentless and almost single-minded pursuit of one’s own personal pleasure as one’s ultimate concern. This takes us to our third example. Again, there are many Catholics in the world who go to church, go to confession, and even follow the Commandments who still perhaps ask themselves this question repeatedly: “How can I get myself into the kingdom of heaven, while putting the least amount of effort into my relationship with God?” These people might try their very best to avoid all sorts of serious sin. But, as we know from personal experience, there is a huge difference between simply trying to avoid “serious sin”, and actually trying our very best to please the Lord in all things, especially in those little details which perhaps no one else would ever notice, except Christ Himself! But that’s really the difference between being a “lukewarm Catholic” (or a “minimalist”) and being a true disciple of the Lord.[1]

Gemini’s Take

The parable of the hidden coin in Luke 19 diagnoses the spiritual paralysis of our age: wrapping grace in a handkerchief is the ultimate symbol of a minimalism born of fearful calculation. When viewed through the lens of Catholic teaching, the secular triad of individualism, hedonism, and minimalism directly repudiates the Gospel. Individualism fractures human solidarity by reducing relationships to the transactional question, "What’s in it for me?"—denying the truth that man only realizes his true nature through a sincere gift of self (CCC 1878). Hedonism, meanwhile, treats mere comfort as the supreme good and flees from the Cross, forgetting that true beatitude is found in God alone and that holiness cannot exist without spiritual combat and renunciation (CCC 2015). Together, they culminate in a calculated spiritual minimalism—the deadly sin of acedia or lukewarmness (CCC 2094)—where believers seek the absolute bare minimum required to maintain respectability or avoid damnation, rather than striving for the universal call to holiness (CCC 2013).

In modern American culture, this personal compromise metastasizes into widespread moral decay and institutional collapse. When self-interest and convenience become sovereign, society naturally defaults to a throwaway culture where vulnerable human life—the unborn, the elderly, the suffering—is treated as an inconvenient burden rather than an inviolable image of God (CCC 1700, 2270). A Christianity stripped of the Cross produces lukewarm believers and timid institutions that bury their talents in the dirt out of fear, lacking the moral courage to confront social injustice or evangelize a fracturing world. External political programs, superficial reforms, and cultural nostalgia cannot heal this deep spiritual numbness.

Ultimately, genuine renewal requires confronting the root fear that leads us to hoard our lives rather than risk them for the Kingdom. The one thing that must change is we must replace the pursuit of comfortable self-preservation with total, sacrificial surrender to the Lordship of Christ.

Worldwide Vineyard TourπŸ‡ Week 4: Sicily, Italy

Theme: “Volcanic Mercy, Marian Flame”
Dates: November 18–25, 2025
Base: Etna Region – Catania, Randazzo, and Castiglione di Sicilia

πŸ—“️ November 18 – Arrival and Volcanic Orientation

Travel from Montepulciano to Catania via Florence (~$68 USD flight).

Lodging at Hotel Centrum Catania (~$74 USD/night).

Evening walk through Catania’s historic center. Toast with Etna Rosso.
Symbolic Act: “Flame and Dust”—bless the mountain, name the mercy.

πŸ—“️ November 19 – Etna North & Vineyard Ascent

Transfer to Randazzo (~$6 USD by train).

Tasting at Tenuta delle Terre Nere (~$28 USD).

Visit Chiesa di Santa Maria.
Symbolic Act: “Ascent and Mercy”—walk the slopes, pour the flame.

πŸ—“️ November 20 – Castiglione di Sicilia & Civic Pouring

Bus to Castiglione (~$4 USD).

Tasting at Gambino Winery (~$25 USD).

Lunch at Ristorante President (~$22 USD).
Symbolic Act: “Civic Flame”—bless the stewards, name the saints.

πŸ—“️ November 21 – Marian Vineyard Walk

Morning walk through Vigna di Madonna delle Grazie (symbolic route).

Journal and name each vine with a Marian title.

Picnic from Mercato di Randazzo (~$10 USD).
Symbolic Act: “Naming the Vines”—plant mercy in Marian soil.

πŸ—“️ November 22 – Vineyard Eucharist & Volcanic Pause

Morning reflection at Etna’s lava fields.

Prepare a Eucharistic meal: bread, olives, and Etna Bianco.

Evening journaling with psalms or poetry.
Symbolic Act: “I believe and I burn”—a Eucharist of flame and fruit.

πŸ—“️ November 23 – Taormina Day Trip: Beauty and Benediction

Train to Taormina (~$9 USD).

Visit Duomo di Taormina and Greek Theatre.

Optional tasting at Barone di Villagrande (~$30 USD).
Symbolic Act: “Benediction and Beauty”—bless the ruins, pour the light.

πŸ—“️ November 24 – Sending Forth

Final toast with Etna Rosso Riserva.

Write a vineyard blessing for the next traveler.
Symbolic Act: “Sicilian Benediction”—send forth the volcanic mercy.

πŸ—“️ November 25 – Travel Day

Depart Sicily for your next vineyard destination.

Suggested next stop: Cyprus or Stellenbosch, depending on your seasonal arc.


πŸ’° Estimated Total Cost: $512 USD

Includes 7 nights lodging, 3 vineyard tastings, 2 symbolic meals, and 1 day trip with transit and picnic.

 

🍽️ Seven-Course Sicilian Ritual Meal: Volcanic Mercy, Marian Flame

πŸ₯‚ 1. Aperitivo – “Flame and Dust”

Dish: Etna Rosso spritz with charred eggplant caponata on crostini

Etna Spritz recipe

Sicilian eggplant caponata recipe

🍜 2. Antipasto – “Ascent and Mercy”

Dish: Wild mushroom and black garlic arancini

Wild mushroom arancini with black garlic aioli

πŸ₯— 3. Primo – “Civic Flame”

Dish: Pasta alla Norma with roasted tomatoes and ricotta salata

Pasta alla Norma recipe

πŸ– 4. Secondo – “Marian Soil”

Dish: Grilled lamb chops with mint-pistachio pesto

Grilled lamb chops with mint-pistachio pesto

🍞 5. Contorno – “Eucharistic Flame”

Dish: Olive focaccia with Etna Bianco pairing

Olive focaccia recipe

🍧 6. Dolce – “Benediction and Beauty”

Dish: Blood orange granita with almond crumble

Blood orange granita with almond cookie crumble

🍷 7. Digestivo – “Sicilian Sending”

Dish: Etna Rosso Riserva toast with fig-stuffed chocolate truffles

Fig-stuffed chocolate truffles recipe

OR HAVE A “BIG NIGHT”

 

The centerpiece of the meal from The Big Night is the iconic Timpano—a dramatic, drum-shaped pasta dome layered with meats, cheeses, eggs, and sauce, baked in a golden crust.

 

Here’s a breakdown of the full menu inspired by the 1996 film The Big Night, which celebrates Italian-American culinary grandeur and emotional depth:

 

🍽️ The Big Night Feast Menu

πŸ₯– Antipasti

Bruschetta with Ricotta and Walnuts
Crusty bread topped with fresh ricotta, lemon zest, garlic, thyme, and toasted walnuts.
Recipe link

Escarole and Fennel Salad
A crisp mix of escarole, shaved fennel, celery, red onion, and pecorino, dressed with lemon and olive oil.
Recipe link

🍝 Primo

Pasta alla Ragu
A rich meat sauce made with ground beef, Italian sausage, rosemary, garlic, and tomatoes, served over fusilli or cavatappi.
Recipe link

🍲 Secondo (Main Event)

Timpano
A show-stopping pasta dome filled with layers of cooked pasta, meatballs, hard-boiled eggs, Genoa salami, mozzarella, provolone, and tomato sauce, all encased in a golden crust.
This dish is the emotional and culinary climax of the film.
How to make Timpano
Dedicated Timpano recipe site

🍷 Accompaniments

Red Wine (Chianti or Barolo)
To match the richness and depth of the meal.

🍰 Dolce

Simple Italian Dessert (Optional)
In the film, dessert is overshadowed by the grandeur of the Timpano, but a light panna cotta or biscotti would be fitting.

Around the Corner

Pray the Rosary  AND Fast too today is “Occult Day”

How to celebrate Nov 18th

Start your day with a hearty breakfast of vichyssoise soup, celebrating National Vichyssoise Day in style.

Head to a local school to volunteer during American Education Week.

Embrace your inner child by watching classic Disney cartoons featuring Mickey Mouse and Minnie Mouse.

 Afterwards, indulge in some apple cider while watching a documentary about undersea sports like underwater hockey.

Take a moment to honor Housing Day by decluttering and organizing your living space.

Wear a tiara or a crown to celebrate National Princess Day, embracing your royal side.

Educate yourself on issues of violence against men on the International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Men.

Daily Devotions/Practice

Unite in the work of the Porters of St. Joseph by joining them in fasting: Today's Fast: Absent Fathers (Physically & Spiritually)

Offering to the sacred heart of Jesus

Drops of Christ’s Blood

Universal Man Plan


LEAVE HER TO HEAVEN (1945) - WHEN LOVE BECOMES POSSESSION

From Devotion to Destruction

(Based on Leave Her to Heaven, 1945)

When a Man Makes Another Person His God

Every man is called to love.

A husband should love his wife.

A wife should love her husband.

Parents should love their children.

Friends should love one another.

Yet love becomes dangerous when it ceases to be ordered.

Love that serves becomes charity.

Love that controls becomes possession.

In Leave Her to Heaven, Gene Tierney portrays Ellen Berent, a woman whose beauty and devotion conceal a deeply disordered heart. She loves her husband Richard intensely, but her affection gradually becomes obsession. She cannot tolerate sharing his attention with family, friends, or anyone else who competes for his affection.

What appears at first to be romantic devotion slowly reveals itself as selfish attachment.

Many men make a similar mistake.

Not through crime or obsession, but through misplaced priorities.

A man can become more attached to a spouse than to God.

More attached to a child than to truth.

More attached to approval than to virtue.

More attached to comfort than to duty.

Anything placed above God eventually demands a price.

Scripture repeatedly warns against idols.

Most idols are not statues.

They are loves that have become disordered.

The lesson is that love must be governed by virtue.

The verdict is that true love seeks the good of another, not possession of another.


Film Card - Leave Her to Heaven (1945)

Leave Her to Heaven • Psychological Drama • Film Noir • Romance • 1h 50m

A beautiful newlywed's obsessive attachment to her husband gradually destroys the lives of those around her as love turns into jealousy and possession.

Themes: Love & Possession • Jealousy & Obsession • Idolatry & Attachment

Cast: Gene Tierney, Cornel Wilde, Jeanne Crain, Vincent Price

Production: Twentieth Century-Fox

Cultural Frame: Released immediately after World War II, the film challenged traditional romantic ideals by portraying how excessive attachment and possessiveness can become destructive rather than loving.


Production & Cultural Setting

Technicolor Noir

Unlike most film noir productions, the story unfolds in brilliant color, creating a striking contrast between outward beauty and inner corruption.

The Ideal Wife Question

Postwar America often celebrated domestic happiness, yet the film explores how appearances can conceal profound spiritual disorder.

Possessive Love

The story examines the difference between loving a person and attempting to own a person.

The Hidden Idol

What begins as affection slowly reveals itself as an idol demanding complete devotion.

Beauty and Temptation

The film reminds viewers that external attractiveness does not guarantee internal virtue.


Story Summary

The Romance:

Richard Harland falls in love with the beautiful Ellen Berent and quickly marries her.

The Attachment:

Ellen's devotion appears admirable but grows increasingly possessive.

The Jealousy:

She resents anyone who receives Richard's attention, including members of his own family.

The Obsession:

Her need for exclusive affection drives her toward increasingly destructive decisions.

The Consequences:

The lives of those closest to her are damaged by her refusal to place any limits on her desires.

The Tragedy:

Disordered love ultimately destroys the very relationships Ellen seeks to preserve.


Moral & Spiritual Resonances

A. Love Must Have Order

Every love finds its proper place only when God remains first.

B. Possession Is Not Love

Love desires another's good. Possession desires another's control.

C. Jealousy Distorts Reality

Unchecked jealousy often creates the very losses it fears.

D. Idols Demand Sacrifice

Anything elevated above God eventually consumes peace, joy, and freedom.

E. Virtue Protects Affection

Without humility, self-control, and charity, even good desires can become destructive.


Hospitality Pairing - A Classic Hollywood Evening

Food - Elegant 1940s Supper

  • Roast chicken
  • Butter-glazed vegetables
  • Garden salad
  • Lemon pie

Drink - Refined but Strong

  • Bourbon Old Fashioned
  • Russell's Reserve
  • Dry red wine
  • Coffee

Cigar

  • Dark Habano

Atmosphere - Golden Age Hollywood

  • Soft jazz
  • Candlelight
  • Classic film posters
  • Discussion about love, attachment, and virtue

Personal Reflection

Do I love God more than the people closest to me?

Have I confused attachment with love?

Where has jealousy entered my relationships?

What possession or relationship would be hardest for me to surrender to God?

Do I seek to serve others or control them?

Am I helping those I love become saints?

Ellen Berent's tragedy is not that she loved.

Her tragedy is that she loved without order.

Scripture teaches that God must be first because every other love depends upon Him.

When God remains first, love becomes freedom.

When God is replaced, love becomes possession.

The world often says, "I cannot live without you."

Christian love says, "I love you enough to want God's will for you."

For in the end, the greatest love does not cling.

It leads others closer to Heaven.

Wednesday, November 11, 2026

Wednesday, November 18, 2026


 

Smoke in This Life; Not the Next

Wednesday, Nov. 18 – Scandal Given

Virtue: Modesty

Cigar: Corojo

Bourbon: Russell's Reserve

A spark can start a fire, and a careless example can start a spiritual disaster. For centuries, the Church has warned against the sin of scandal, not merely because someone is shocked or offended, but because a person's actions may become an occasion for another's fall. Scandal occurs when we make sin easier, temptation more attractive, or virtue more difficult for others.

Following the Council of Trent, Church leaders paid close attention to sacred art. Beauty was encouraged, but images that stirred lust or distracted from God were condemned. The concern was not artistic excellence but spiritual responsibility. Art, like every human creation, should help lift the soul rather than pull it downward.

Today the challenge extends far beyond paintings on chapel walls. Every phone, computer, television, and social media account places countless images before our eyes. We may not be artists, but we choose what we view, share, recommend, and encourage. Those choices affect not only us but those around us.

The Swiss pikemen understood that one man breaking formation could endanger the entire line. The spiritual life works much the same way. What appears to be a private compromise often creates public consequences. A careless word, crude joke, or impure image may leave a wound in another soul long after we have forgotten it.

As today's smoke rises, examine not only your actions but your influence. Ask whether your example leads others closer to Christ or farther away from Him. Holiness is never merely personal. Every virtue strengthens the line; every vice weakens it.

*"Whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in me to sin, it would be better for him to have a great millstone fastened around his neck and to...

NOVEMBER 18 Wednesday Twenty Fifth Week Pentecost

 

Luke, Chapter 19, Verse 20-21

Then the other servant came and said, ‘Sir, here is your gold coin; I kept it stored away in a handkerchief, for I was AFRAID of you, because you are a demanding person; you take up what you did not lay down and you harvest what you did not plant.’

 

When I read this verse; I thought of Mathew Kelly’s writing from his book, “Rediscovering Catholicism.” Kelly speaks about the various attitudes and philosophies which shape and define the mindset of the modern secular world. He identifies three key lifestyles: individualism, hedonism, and minimalism.

 

First, what’s individualism?

 

Individualism is an attitude whereby I come to see myself as the center of the universe. The individualist will typically go through the course of his or her day asking himself or herself one question: “What’s in it for me?”

 

Secondly, what’s hedonism?

 

Essentially, it is an attitude whereby I come to see the pursuit of my own personal pleasure as my primary concern in life. The hedonist will typically ask himself or herself this question: “How can I maximize the amount of pleasure in my life while minimizing the amount of pain and inconvenience which I must endure?”

 

Thirdly, what is minimalism?

 

This is a attitude whereby I look to put in the minimum amount of effort that I possibly can into life, while reaping the maximum amount of reward. The minimalist will typically ask himself or herself questions such as these:

 

·         “What’s the least amount I can possibly do at the workplace and still keep my job?” Or perhaps:

·         “What’s the least amount I can possibly do at school and still get a good grade?”

 

There are many people in the world today who might “self-identify” as being “Christian”, if not “Catholic”, who are still giving their hearts very much to the so-called “spirit of the world”; whether we’re talking about the spirit of individualism, hedonism or minimalism. For instance, we can say that there are many Catholics in the world who go to Mass, say their prayers, and perhaps even occasionally eat fish on Fridays – who still govern most of their conduct by asking themselves this one simple question: “What’s in it for me?” Many of these people might still be very “kind” and “generous” to certain persons that they happen to know. Who isn’t from time to time? But perhaps, this sense of “kindness” and “generosity” is still governed by a pervasive sense of selfishness and self-interest. In other words: “I’ll be kind to you, but only insofar as you’re being kind back onto me!” And what is that but the spirit of individualism. Let’s take a different example. Again, we can say that there are many Catholics in the world today who go to Mass, say their prayers, and perhaps belong to certain religious clubs or organizations who still govern the bulk of their conduct by asking: “How can I get through the course of my day while incurring the least amount of pain or inconvenience to myself?” Many of these people might still be saying their prayers, perhaps even every day, but what’s often the real substance behind these prayers? “O Lord give me the things that I want, the things that I desire, the things that I believe to be essential to my own sense of happiness and well-being. But Lord, whatever you do: do not make me suffer, do not give me inconvenience, and do not give me pain! In other words, do not give me the Cross!” And that is the spirit of hedonism: the relentless and almost single-minded pursuit of one’s own personal pleasure as one’s ultimate concern. This takes us to our third example. Again, there are many Catholics in the world who go to church, go to confession, and even follow the Commandments who still perhaps ask themselves this question repeatedly: “How can I get myself into the kingdom of heaven, while putting the least amount of effort into my relationship with God?” These people might try their very best to avoid all sorts of serious sin. But, as we know from personal experience, there is a huge difference between simply trying to avoid “serious sin”, and actually trying our very best to please the Lord in all things, especially in those little details which perhaps no one else would ever notice, except Christ Himself! But that’s really the difference between being a “lukewarm Catholic” (or a “minimalist”) and being a true disciple of the Lord.[1]

Gemini’s Take

The parable of the hidden coin in Luke 19 diagnoses the spiritual paralysis of our age: wrapping grace in a handkerchief is the ultimate symbol of a minimalism born of fearful calculation. When viewed through the lens of Catholic teaching, the secular triad of individualism, hedonism, and minimalism directly repudiates the Gospel. Individualism fractures human solidarity by reducing relationships to the transactional question, "What’s in it for me?"—denying the truth that man only realizes his true nature through a sincere gift of self (CCC 1878). Hedonism, meanwhile, treats mere comfort as the supreme good and flees from the Cross, forgetting that true beatitude is found in God alone and that holiness cannot exist without spiritual combat and renunciation (CCC 2015). Together, they culminate in a calculated spiritual minimalism—the deadly sin of acedia or lukewarmness (CCC 2094)—where believers seek the absolute bare minimum required to maintain respectability or avoid damnation, rather than striving for the universal call to holiness (CCC 2013).

In modern American culture, this personal compromise metastasizes into widespread moral decay and institutional collapse. When self-interest and convenience become sovereign, society naturally defaults to a throwaway culture where vulnerable human life—the unborn, the elderly, the suffering—is treated as an inconvenient burden rather than an inviolable image of God (CCC 1700, 2270). A Christianity stripped of the Cross produces lukewarm believers and timid institutions that bury their talents in the dirt out of fear, lacking the moral courage to confront social injustice or evangelize a fracturing world. External political programs, superficial reforms, and cultural nostalgia cannot heal this deep spiritual numbness.

Ultimately, genuine renewal requires confronting the root fear that leads us to hoard our lives rather than risk them for the Kingdom. The one thing that must change is we must replace the pursuit of comfortable self-preservation with total, sacrificial surrender to the Lordship of Christ.

Worldwide Vineyard TourπŸ‡ Week 4: Sicily, Italy

Theme: “Volcanic Mercy, Marian Flame”
Dates: November 18–25, 2025
Base: Etna Region – Catania, Randazzo, and Castiglione di Sicilia

πŸ—“️ November 18 – Arrival and Volcanic Orientation

Travel from Montepulciano to Catania via Florence (~$68 USD flight).

Lodging at Hotel Centrum Catania (~$74 USD/night).

Evening walk through Catania’s historic center. Toast with Etna Rosso.
Symbolic Act: “Flame and Dust”—bless the mountain, name the mercy.

πŸ—“️ November 19 – Etna North & Vineyard Ascent

Transfer to Randazzo (~$6 USD by train).

Tasting at Tenuta delle Terre Nere (~$28 USD).

Visit Chiesa di Santa Maria.
Symbolic Act: “Ascent and Mercy”—walk the slopes, pour the flame.

πŸ—“️ November 20 – Castiglione di Sicilia & Civic Pouring

Bus to Castiglione (~$4 USD).

Tasting at Gambino Winery (~$25 USD).

Lunch at Ristorante President (~$22 USD).
Symbolic Act: “Civic Flame”—bless the stewards, name the saints.

πŸ—“️ November 21 – Marian Vineyard Walk

Morning walk through Vigna di Madonna delle Grazie (symbolic route).

Journal and name each vine with a Marian title.

Picnic from Mercato di Randazzo (~$10 USD).
Symbolic Act: “Naming the Vines”—plant mercy in Marian soil.

πŸ—“️ November 22 – Vineyard Eucharist & Volcanic Pause

Morning reflection at Etna’s lava fields.

Prepare a Eucharistic meal: bread, olives, and Etna Bianco.

Evening journaling with psalms or poetry.
Symbolic Act: “I believe and I burn”—a Eucharist of flame and fruit.

πŸ—“️ November 23 – Taormina Day Trip: Beauty and Benediction

Train to Taormina (~$9 USD).

Visit Duomo di Taormina and Greek Theatre.

Optional tasting at Barone di Villagrande (~$30 USD).
Symbolic Act: “Benediction and Beauty”—bless the ruins, pour the light.

πŸ—“️ November 24 – Sending Forth

Final toast with Etna Rosso Riserva.

Write a vineyard blessing for the next traveler.
Symbolic Act: “Sicilian Benediction”—send forth the volcanic mercy.

πŸ—“️ November 25 – Travel Day

Depart Sicily for your next vineyard destination.

Suggested next stop: Cyprus or Stellenbosch, depending on your seasonal arc.


πŸ’° Estimated Total Cost: $512 USD

Includes 7 nights lodging, 3 vineyard tastings, 2 symbolic meals, and 1 day trip with transit and picnic.

 

🍽️ Seven-Course Sicilian Ritual Meal: Volcanic Mercy, Marian Flame

πŸ₯‚ 1. Aperitivo – “Flame and Dust”

Dish: Etna Rosso spritz with charred eggplant caponata on crostini

Etna Spritz recipe

Sicilian eggplant caponata recipe

🍜 2. Antipasto – “Ascent and Mercy”

Dish: Wild mushroom and black garlic arancini

Wild mushroom arancini with black garlic aioli

πŸ₯— 3. Primo – “Civic Flame”

Dish: Pasta alla Norma with roasted tomatoes and ricotta salata

Pasta alla Norma recipe

πŸ– 4. Secondo – “Marian Soil”

Dish: Grilled lamb chops with mint-pistachio pesto

Grilled lamb chops with mint-pistachio pesto

🍞 5. Contorno – “Eucharistic Flame”

Dish: Olive focaccia with Etna Bianco pairing

Olive focaccia recipe

🍧 6. Dolce – “Benediction and Beauty”

Dish: Blood orange granita with almond crumble

Blood orange granita with almond cookie crumble

🍷 7. Digestivo – “Sicilian Sending”

Dish: Etna Rosso Riserva toast with fig-stuffed chocolate truffles

Fig-stuffed chocolate truffles recipe

OR HAVE A “BIG NIGHT”

 

The centerpiece of the meal from The Big Night is the iconic Timpano—a dramatic, drum-shaped pasta dome layered with meats, cheeses, eggs, and sauce, baked in a golden crust.

 

Here’s a breakdown of the full menu inspired by the 1996 film The Big Night, which celebrates Italian-American culinary grandeur and emotional depth:

 

🍽️ The Big Night Feast Menu

πŸ₯– Antipasti

Bruschetta with Ricotta and Walnuts
Crusty bread topped with fresh ricotta, lemon zest, garlic, thyme, and toasted walnuts.
Recipe link

Escarole and Fennel Salad
A crisp mix of escarole, shaved fennel, celery, red onion, and pecorino, dressed with lemon and olive oil.
Recipe link

🍝 Primo

Pasta alla Ragu
A rich meat sauce made with ground beef, Italian sausage, rosemary, garlic, and tomatoes, served over fusilli or cavatappi.
Recipe link

🍲 Secondo (Main Event)

Timpano
A show-stopping pasta dome filled with layers of cooked pasta, meatballs, hard-boiled eggs, Genoa salami, mozzarella, provolone, and tomato sauce, all encased in a golden crust.
This dish is the emotional and culinary climax of the film.
How to make Timpano
Dedicated Timpano recipe site

🍷 Accompaniments

Red Wine (Chianti or Barolo)
To match the richness and depth of the meal.

🍰 Dolce

Simple Italian Dessert (Optional)
In the film, dessert is overshadowed by the grandeur of the Timpano, but a light panna cotta or biscotti would be fitting.

Around the Corner

Pray the Rosary  AND Fast too today is “Occult Day”

How to celebrate Nov 18th

Start your day with a hearty breakfast of vichyssoise soup, celebrating National Vichyssoise Day in style.

Head to a local school to volunteer during American Education Week.

Embrace your inner child by watching classic Disney cartoons featuring Mickey Mouse and Minnie Mouse.

 Afterwards, indulge in some apple cider while watching a documentary about undersea sports like underwater hockey.

Take a moment to honor Housing Day by decluttering and organizing your living space.

Wear a tiara or a crown to celebrate National Princess Day, embracing your royal side.

Educate yourself on issues of violence against men on the International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Men.

Daily Devotions/Practice

Unite in the work of the Porters of St. Joseph by joining them in fasting: Today's Fast: Absent Fathers (Physically & Spiritually)

Offering to the sacred heart of Jesus

Drops of Christ’s Blood

Universal Man Plan

SON OF FURY: THE STORY OF BENJAMIN BLAKE (1942) - THE INHERITANCE MEN RECEIVE AND THE CHARACTER THEY CHOOSE

From Birthright to True Worth
(Based on Son of Fury: The Story of Benjamin Blake, 1942)

When a Man Must Decide Who He Really Is

Every man receives an inheritance.

Some inherit wealth.

Some inherit poverty.

Some inherit opportunity.

Some inherit hardship.

Yet no man is defined by what he receives.

He is defined by what he becomes.

In Son of Fury: The Story of Benjamin Blake, Tyrone Power portrays a young Englishman wrongfully deprived of his rightful inheritance. Through betrayal, hardship, adventure, and perseverance, Benjamin Blake must build a life beyond the circumstances imposed upon him. Along the way he discovers that character is worth more than property and that true success cannot be stolen.

Many men spend their lives focused on what they should have received.

The promotion they deserved.

The respect they earned.

The opportunity they missed.

The inheritance they never got.

The recognition that went elsewhere.

Resentment becomes a prison.

A man continually measuring what he lacks rarely notices what God has already given him.

Scripture contains many men who suffered injustice.

Joseph was sold into slavery.

David was hunted by Saul.

Job lost nearly everything.

Yet each became greater than his circumstances because they trusted God more than their grievances.

The Christian man is not called to deny injustice.

He is called to overcome it.

The lesson is that circumstances influence a man but do not define him.

The verdict is that character is a greater inheritance than wealth.


Film Card - Son of Fury: The Story of Benjamin Blake (1942)

Son of Fury: The Story of Benjamin Blake • Adventure • Historical Drama • Romance • 1h 38m

A young English heir is cheated out of his birthright and forced into hardship before seeking a new life through courage, perseverance, and determination.

Themes: Perseverance & Justice • Character & Inheritance • Resilience & Purpose

Cast: Tyrone Power, Gene Tierney, George Sanders

Production: Twentieth Century-Fox

Cultural Frame: Released during World War II, the film reflected themes of endurance, courage, and personal triumph that resonated strongly with audiences facing uncertainty and sacrifice.


Production & Cultural Setting

The Wartime Hero

Films of the early 1940s often celebrated perseverance against overwhelming odds.

Birth and Status

Traditional societies placed great importance on inheritance, family position, and social rank.

Adventure as Transformation

Journeys across oceans and cultures symbolize personal growth and self-discovery.

Justice Delayed

The story explores the reality that fairness is not always immediate but can still prevail through persistence.

The Noble Character

The highest form of nobility is shown not by title but by virtue.


Story Summary

The Birthright:
Benjamin Blake is denied the inheritance and position that should rightfully be his.

The Betrayal:
Powerful individuals use deceit and influence to keep him from his rightful place.

The Escape:
Seeking a better future, Benjamin leaves England and embraces an uncertain path.

The New Life:
Far from home, he discovers strength and abilities that hardship had hidden.

The Test:
Success forces him to choose whether revenge or justice will guide his future.

The Resolution:
Benjamin ultimately learns that personal worth is measured by character rather than possessions.


Moral & Spiritual Resonances

A. Your Beginning Does Not Determine Your Ending

A difficult start does not prevent a faithful finish.

B. Resentment Steals Joy

Bitterness often harms the victim more than the offender.

C. Adversity Reveals Character

Hardship exposes both weaknesses and strengths.

D. Providence Works Through Trials

God frequently uses setbacks to prepare men for greater purposes.

E. Virtue Outlasts Wealth

Money, status, and possessions fade. Character endures.


Hospitality Pairing - An English Adventure Evening

Food - Colonial Era Supper

  • Roast beef
  • Yorkshire pudding
  • Buttered carrots
  • Apple tart

Drink - Gentleman Traveler

  • English ale
  • Dry cider
  • Brandy
  • Black tea

Cigar

  • Smooth Sumatra

Atmosphere - A Journey of Character

  • Classical orchestral music
  • Candlelight
  • Antique maps and nautical dΓ©cor
  • Discussion about perseverance, justice, and providence

Personal Reflection

Do I spend more time focusing on what I lost than on what I still possess?

What injustice do I need to place into God's hands?

Have disappointments made me stronger or more bitter?

Where has hardship revealed hidden strengths?

Am I building character as carefully as I would build wealth?

What legacy am I truly leaving behind?

Benjamin Blake begins by seeking what belongs to him.

He ends by becoming worthy of what he receives.

That is the pattern found throughout Scripture.

Joseph received Egypt only after prison.

David received a kingdom only after exile.

Moses received leadership only after years in the wilderness.

Even Christ entered glory through sacrifice.

God is often less concerned with what a man owns than with what a man becomes.

The world measures inheritance by possessions.

God measures inheritance by faithfulness.

For in the end, a righteous character is a treasure no thief can steal and no injustice can take away.


November

November
Remember-Feasts All Saint, All Souls, Thanksgiving

December

December
December opens the door to quiet expectancy

January